Thursday, November 3, 2016

Musing #49--What Narcissistic Abuse Does

In my pit of despair (Is that from Princess Bride?) I've been trying to figure out what is causing it all.

Sure our roof has to be replaced and isn't covered by home warranty or insurance...it never is. The sellers were crooks and covered things up beautifully.

Sure we were victims of identity theft recently.

But really, what was at the root of my spiral. And it all leads back to this feeling of worthlessness that is really instilled by the discrediting of Husband's parents and thereby believed by Husband for so long. That when he tries to say otherwise now, I don't believe him. I don't know if he believes him. At the moment...we are at odds. So, it's hard to believe words.

So, I am trying to understand Narcissistic Abuse even MORE. To get this awful feeling to go away.

I'm reading legit books for sure. But these sure sum up all the research really well:

Educate yourself. A recovery from narcissistic sociopath relationship abuse.:
link to source

A part of her heart...:
link to source

if a man expects a woman to be an angel, he must create heaven for her, angel's don't live in hell:
link to source (link was broken when I found it)

Nikita Gill …:
link to source

Narcissistic Grandparents - great blog: http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/:
link to source

We'll stop there for now. Just some things that have been on my mind. As my mind swirls, so do my words. These are short and to the point.

Narcissists suck, and their abuse lingers, even after they are cut out. Cut them out as soon as you suspect something. You can always ease them back into your life as you are ready and prepared to do so, and fully aware of who and what they are. But do not allow them to tear you apart, then deal with the aftermath and try to figure it out as you go. Cut them out, figure it all out, and if you choose to, let them back in on your terms. (But I wouldn't recommend it. Narcissists don't change. Not for anyone.)





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